And yet, when the cloud of rice and toule clears, that new spouse wants his needs met too. At first cleaning up after him or scraping off her car in the winter is a joy, but it has a tendency to start feeling like work after a while.
So how do we keep the bliss in marriage? In my immense experience (a year and a half of marriage) I've found that I have to remind myself to take joy in giving.
When I sweep the floors or fold laundry or care for our son while my husband goes on a fun ski trip, I like to think of it as a little gift I'm giving him. When I add a special touch to the lunch I pack for him or do a task that's usually his domain, I get a little thrill thinking about the happy surprise he'll get.
These little gifts to my husband have a way of coming back to me multiplied. He's so glad to have someone who relishes caring for him that he starts thinking of ways to give me little happy surprises, and I end up with a husband who's happy to provide for us, a nap while he cares for our son or flowers when he gets home from work. Talk about marital bliss!
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