2009-08-31
Cloth Diaper Questions
A: There's a lady who runs a cloth diaper store from her home in our town. She offers classes on all the options periodically. That was so helpful! I got to see how it all worked before we chose which kind of diapers to get. There's a start up cost so once you buy, you're kind of committed. See www.pinstripesandpolkadots.com for the online store we used.
2009-08-28
The Power of Words
2009-08-27
Teaching Focus
2009-08-26
Sleeping Like a Baby
So how bad is it, really? How long does it last? Babywise says "Healthy, full-term babies typically are born with the capacity to achieve seven to eight hours of continuous nighttime sleep between seven and nine weeks." Oh, was that music to my worried, pregnant ears! And let me encourage you too: it's true! Sleep is a skill that must be taught, but it's definitely doable in a reasonable amount of time. Some babies may achieve the 7-8 hours of continuous sleep a little later, but most can do it by 3 months.
How did it work for us? Well, I'm an orderly person and all those pronouncements sure scared me so I when I was pointed to Babywise, I read it all the way through before our baby was born. Twice. Then when Junior was born, even before we brought him home from the hospital, I fed him every three hours. That was especially easy in the beginning because he was so tired from being born he would sleep until I woke him up every time. Babywise encourages parents to focus on keeping a newborn awake long enough to take a full feeding. Gradually those wakeful periods lengthen out.
At home, I stuck to that 3 hour routine of feeding, diaper changing, playing a little, then sleep. It worked pretty well, but there were some hiccups. If Baby woke up before the next feeding time but close and seemed hungry, I'd go ahead and feed him. If it hadn't been very long, I figured something else was the problem and worked to help him get back to sleep.
At night, we didn't play with him after the feeding. Just a quick diaper change and back to bed for everybody. We've been blessed with a baby who requires a lot of sleep anyway, so that was never really difficult.
Now our son, David, was born small (5 lbs 4 oz) and sometimes would sleep too long because he was working so hard on growing. So I set the alarm to make sure I fed him every 3 hours at night... until he got to be about 9 lbs. or so. Then I'd feed him before I went to bed and just let him sleep as long as he wanted. Gradually, he started to lengthen out his nighttime feedings. We went from waking up twice at night to once around 8 weeks. Then he would sleep until 4:30 or 5 AM at 3 months. By 4 months, David slept like a baby at night - 12 hours of continuous sleep.
It's a sweet sweet thing! Every baby is different. The journey to "sleeping through the night" is rough on parents no matter what. But it is achievable in a reasonable amount of time. Good sleep habits can be taught.
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Babywise
2009-08-25
An Easy Babysitter?
Yet, there stands the American Academy of Pediatrics' recommendation: no TV at all before 2 years of age. Why? Well, aside from the violence and marketing they'll be exposed to, it "negatively affects brain development" (Your Baby's First Year, American Academy of Pediatrics pg 490). According to other research (an article in the medical journal Pediatrics, quoted in Bringing Up Boys pg 47), television viewing by children can lead to violent behavior, obesity, apathy, lower metabolism, decreased imagination and constipation.
So don't do it! Keep that TV off until they're 2 and stick to just a few hours of educational programming a day after that. I personally recommend less frequent TV viewing, certainly not daily. We've gotten rid of the TV in our house and it gives us so much more time to spend talking and getting things done.
There are so many good things for kids to be doing in the real world! There's running and jumping and playing. Seems like those activities aren't as popular as they used to be. Just look at the jungle gyms that have been remodeled lately. They were once for kids all the way up to 12 years old. Now, it seems like kids over 7 are no longer interested. They're much more likely to be inside in front of a screen. Let's give our kids the gift of an active childhood by keeping that TV off!
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Your Baby's First Year
Bringing Up Boys
2009-08-24
Baby Love
Kids love Justice
In his book, Bringing Up Boys, Dr. Dobson articulated something I knew as both a student and teacher: kids like it when the teacher defends the weakest and least popular student. They know that if that kid is safe, then they must be safe too. This is important for all of us who are in positions of authority, whether over children or adults. We teach civility and kindness when we protect all those in our care - even from each other.
The "tricky part," (pg 48) warns Dobson, is ensuring that the protected youngster isn't given the idea that he's a "victim" in general. If a kid gets that idea, he's likely to carry it along for quite a few years and miss out on lots of things that require risk and confidence later in life. We can avoid giving our kids this idea by focusing on the specific situation at hand, rather than making general statements.
Growing up is hard to do. Sometimes life just isn't fair. Yet, by making our own homes as safe from teasing as we can, we will instill in our children basic respect for others. This will go a long way toward improving the rest of the world as time goes by.
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Bringing Up Boys
2009-08-21
Needs and Nagging
Dr. Laura suggests trying out some of these tactics without asking for what you want. She predicts that before long your husband will turn to you and ask, "Honey, you've been so sweet, is there anything I can do for you?" And then he'll probably do whatever you ask quite happily. This method really makes for a more pleasant day for everyone in the house!
2009-08-20
Short Nap Fix
2009-08-19
A Kid's Job
2009-08-18
Good Fences Make Good Neighbors
2009-08-17
Bilingual Baby
The Structured Baby
Does that sound like an oxymoron? Well, in a way it is. Baby is born into the world knowing nothing but the comfort of the womb with its sleepy darkness and all-night buffet. Then he makes it to your arms, looking a little dazed and squished.
Now comes the real work. As Mom and Dad, it is our job to teach Baby what life is like. We have a daily structure for eating, sleeping and the like. Baby will need one too. Only he doesn’t know what that should be. If we let him take the lead, we will end up swapping day for night and living a chaotic, exhausting, child-centered life indefinitely. Baby doesn’t really know what is best for him, so we must help him.
How? Well the answer is in the order of baby’s activities. When he’s first born, Baby’s “day” is roughly 3 hours long, and broken into three activities: eating, activity, and sleeping. The trick is to keep it in that order: (1) eat, (2) activity, (3) sleep. This helps Baby to develop normal patterns of hunger and sleep. It also helps parents discern Baby’s needs.
With a newborn, it should only take gentle coaxing to help this natural routine to fall into place. Work to keep Baby awake when you feed him so he has a good meal, rather than a small snack. At the beginning, this can take some doing. Gently rub his arms and belly. Change a diaper in the middle of feeding if necessary. Those first feedings should take about 20-40 minutes.
While a disordered baby’s needs rule his parents’ lives, a structured baby can be welcomed into the existing family. What a wonderful way to begin Baby’s life!
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How to Talk to Baby
How much can Baby understand? Really, there’s no way to know for certain. Ms. Hogg wisely points out in Secrets of the Baby Whisperer that babies are people too. It seems too obvious to mention, but parents can ignore this very basic fact if they aren’t careful.
Isn’t it tempting to talk about Baby while he’s around? Of course! He’s usually the most interesting topic of conversation! But, how do I feel when someone complains about how I’m grumpy all the time or so difficult to understand? Perhaps we ought to choose our words more carefully. You never know when Baby will begin to catch the drift.
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Baby Personality Types
As any parent of more than one child can attest, every baby is different. Here’s the run down of Tracy Hogg’s Baby Personality Types:
Angel Baby
This is the baby you can take anywhere. He rarely cries, and when he does it’s because of a specific need.
Textbook Baby
This baby follows the book. He hits the developmental milestones right on cue. His cries are pretty easy to decipher too, since they follow “normal” patterns so closely.
Spirited Baby
This is the one who loves the action! He’ll get bored if there’s not enough going on, but can easily get so wound up that it’s hard to calm down for sleep.
Grumpy Baby
These ones seem to have a chip on their shoulders. They kind of like to be left alone sometimes and have definite likes and dislikes.
Touchy Baby
These babies are easily overwhelmed by bright lights, loud noises, too many people in their faces, and too many activities. They like life in the slow lane.
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2009-08-16
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